This post is definitely a few years in the making, as this is an interesting topic that I wanted to talk heavily about for some time. If you watch any type of motivational videos, you’ll find that most entrepreneurs and motivational speakers are usually intense in the way they talk. You might even go as far as saying that sometimes they appear very mean or mad at the world or at certain people.
Gary Vaynerchuk, Eric Thomas, Greg Plitt, the list goes on – numerous speakers constantly talk about things that frustrate them regarding life. Even myself, I did a motivational video that I got a bit intense on, which you can watch below:
With so much motivational content being out there, I’ve been asked so many times: Why are some entrepreneurs so intense? Why are they so angry at people? Why do they seem so mad?
I’m going to bring you a hard truth that revels how many entrepreneurs feel: Most people don’t get it. They don’t understand – and when they try to explain why they do, it gets even more frustrating.
Now this definitely doesn’t apply to everyone, but the truth is, it’s frustrating for entrepreneurs when it comes to building a business. Whether you’re a business owner, musician, actor, author, etc, you’re a entrepreneur, and all across the board people can relate to this post.
When it comes to having a huge dream and being ambitious, inevitably you’re going to get negative push-back. It’s going to happen – if you dream big enough, people are going to doubt you. But what’s even more frustrating is what happens afterwards – the negativity isn’t really that bad.
You create an idea, get negative attention, and then keep pushing forward no matter what. And when you eventually “make it,” people then turn around and call you lucky. They don’t see all the hours you put in, all the sacrifices you had to make, all the hardships you had to endure – they see success, and in their mind the only way that could have happened is pure luck. I have friends, even some best friends, who have called me “lucky” or say that I fall “ass-backwards into everything,” as if hard work and dedication didn’t have anything to do with that equation.
They say that character is defined as what you do when no-one is looking, and 99% of an entrepreneurs life is spent in the shadows. I feel it’s this very reason why it’s so easy for some people to call others lucky or say that they can relate – they don’t see the hours, days, weeks, months, and years that it took to get where they are. They don’t see the constant mental battles that they endure every single day.
It’s tough owning your own business, and people aren’t talking about it enough. There’s MASSIVE amounts of depression, suicide, and psychologically issues that happen with entrepreneurs that’s not being talked about. It’s fucking brutal to trust your instincts, not give up, and grind day-after-day with absolutely no guarantee that it’s going to work out.
I’m not going to lie – I envy people with a 9-5 job. You get there, you’re going to make money anyway, and once you leave you (usually) can relax at home. When you’re an entrepreneur, however, you have to always be 100% on your game. Every. Single. Thing. That you create/make/produce has to be its absolutely best without question, because that’s how you’re going to survive. The mental toughness and endurance it takes to push yourself non-stop every single day is ridiculous, and unlike a job where you’re guaranteed a paycheck, you’re not guaranteed one here. You have to create that paycheck – and that’s not easy to do.
And after all of that, you have people calling you “lucky.” You have people saying that they could easily start a business – but then don’t do anything. You have people saying “it’s easy for you to work hard, because you know what you want to do” but then they sit on their ass, watch TV, and spend no time figuring out what they want to do. You have people say how they “wish” they could live your life, when they don’t see the million negative events you had to endure to make it to where you are now.
Now trust me – I’m not, in anyway, saying that this is all people. It’s not. But at the end of the day, it comes down to one important philosophy:
It doesn’t matter what you say or what you think you know. It matters what you do.
That is the exact reason why entrepreneurs get so frustrated with people. I would never never never try and tell Tom Brady how to throw a football. I wouldn’t act like I know what I’m talking about, simply because I don’t know what it’s like to be a world-class athlete. I recently heard on a podcast how athletes find it frustrating to receive advice from regular people, because the people giving them advice are saying so from knowledge – NOT wisdom.
It’s the exact same thing as a Philosopher who claims to know so much, yet has never traveled and experienced opinions different than their own. Or a musician who refuses to listen to any other genre, yet says they know everything about music. Or any other field.
When it comes to entrepreneurship, it’s all about doing – that’s the key. And motivational speakers and entrepreneurs alike get so intense because they realize how important time is. They realize, more than most people do, how much people need to wake up and start working on their lives immediately.
Don’t get me wrong – you can start on any project or endeavor at any age, but when you start is going to determine how much time you actually have to build it.
It is those very reasons why entrepreneurs get so intense. Above being called lucky, the negative attention, the setbacks, and more, it ultimately comes down to the fact that entrepreneurs live a completely different lifestyle. Sometimes it can get extremely lonely – you’re in your own head 99% of the time, battling with yourself about if it’s going to succeed or not. There’s no boss or supervisor to overlook you – you’re overlooking yourself. You need to have that passion, that fire, that intensity to drive you to success – because nothing else will.
At the end of the day though, it’s the only lifestyle for me and other entrepreneurs. It’s a crazy rollercoaster with huge ups and downs, with no sight of when the ride might get easier. No matter what though, we learn to enjoy the ride, as it’s the only way to enjoy the thrill of life.